"Culture and Tradition" vs. "Modernism"

I have been debating with others as well with myself, about the question of culture and tradition (well that IS what, we Indians always bring in between EVERY discussion) conflicting with modernism. The major point of concern here is what we mean by culture AND tradition and also what we consider Modernism today as.

There was a time when modernism meant development, bringing changes, accepting new ideas and ideologies, creating a more comfortable world, and the most important aspect lay in changing the mind-set! India, though, developed a LOT in all these catagories, but has failed to change the age old mind set patriarchy! Not only this many families till today don't educate the female child. Putting the gender-education difference aside there is the topic of "culture and tradition". My question is that: Why does culture and gender hinder only with women coming into outer world? Why is there never a finger pointed at 'men'? Why all the "cultural and trational" rules for only WOMEN?Why not for MEN?
Consider the recent Mangalore incidence. Why is it that if MEN drink everything is fine, and if a a woman even touches a vodka she is accused of violating our Indian culture?Not that 'm in favour of drinking, but it IS a major concern. Is'nt it? Well this is fact, like it or not. India is a country where infrastuctural and industrial development is hapening rapidly but there is hardly any growth in the deep rooted psychology.
There are other examples:If a man hits and abuses PLUS physically abuses his wife (for ABSOLUTLY no reason) that shows his musculinity....??!?(big question) AND if ever there is a case of a wife beating up her husband its considered as violating the culture...as a wife CANNOT make her husband realise that a husband could be at fault, after all THE husband is the 'sant parmeshwar',right?
A girl child is taught from her childhood that she has to leave her father's home- get married- worship her husband- and what all not! As if there no better knowledge available. Her educaton is made limited, her ideas are resticted, her voice is suppressed! THAT is what culture is meant TODAY! The 'today' which considered as the "Kalyug'!
The meaning of "culture and tradition" has been completly trasformed. Modernism has been altered. The true meaning has been lost. Culture and tradition, which was once considered a cherished idea in India has now become a problem which is growing with every generation.

From the above essay don't judge me as a feminist. Naah, m not a feminist. There are problems that men face but as far as I know in this context there is hardly any amn who face a problem. All men cherish their position, which the partiarchy has given them. It's majorly women who are blamed with "culture and tradition" rule breaking.If there ARE incidences in which men have ever faced such a problem, lease do let me know. No one will be happier that me.Oh! now don't consider me a sadist!

The dumbasses in my life!

It's been long since I posted my last post. So in the new year though I dont have any particular topic to write, but still I have to do the "SHRI GANESH" and what better toppic there can be!!!By the word 'dumbass' one might think that m going to talk about people I who dislike me but here the matter is the other way round!Here m going to tell you about my '5' favorite people apart from my family.
These '5' unfortunate people are my best friends! Probably someday...sometime I did something very good that god has given me the most wonderful gifts he ever made -love of best friends. Some people dont even have ONE best friend and I have '5' (LOL)..TOUCHWOOD!
I'll start with metioning their names:
1. Sanjukta (who hates my blog)
2. Shweta (never reads my blog)
3. Shivangi (not interested)
4. Apurva (kind of likes my blog)
5. Manan (reads my blog just for MY satisfaction)

1. Sanjukta actually hates my blog because according to her there is absolutly nothing worth reading or interesting in it. Apart from this I'v written so much about her in my blog earlier that even if I write more about her it'll be less. I thank her for being always there when I'v needed someone without telling the problem , well she always knows whenever I'm sad or depressed, I dont know HOW! but she ALWAYS knows! Thankyou Sanju for being there always and I hope and wish that you'll always be there!!

2. We talk in months and months but there is NO formality! as though we just met yesterday!I cant remember the day when I met Shweta but as far as I remember she's been there around me like forever and it seems she'll be there forevermore! We share the same thoughts, same ideologies, the same tastes.....but we are still the two ends of a friendship who'll make sure that THIS friendship never breaks.

3. We talk like once in a year!(lol)...still the bond has lasted. Though we both are leos we are entirly different TO THE CORE!!I cant say much about her because Shivangi is a personality of less words and more actions. She is one modest person who NEVER takes a compliment and breaks anyones head who calls her pretty (lol).A personality of unconditional love and happiness....just be the way you are and you'll reach the goal you'v set for yourself!!!

4. I love you...I love you...I love you!! Ahem ahem...no no Apurva is'nt my lesbial partner...we are both straight...my love for her increases everytime, everyday, every hour! She is the one with whom my humor actually matches...though she is better than me. WE are potter freaks so mind you never talk any kind of shit about Potter books!We love tom...hurray he is mine now!! and her brother(lol)....She is a person about whom I'v tried writing so many times and I cant do justice to her personality and even if I try again I know I'll fail...so try to know her yourself and you'll know what you'v been missing in your life!TO APURVA:-dont ever try and forget me , anyways I'll never let you forget me!!!hahahahahahahahaha[evil laugh]

5. MANAN SHARMA-:new on the block!!He is my brand new best friend though I dont know whether I am his best friend or not. But anyways, it is DAMN difficult to explain or describe him. He is absolutly complicated, actually he creats these complications for himself (I can tell you, m experienced). Ohk apart from that on the friendship front I can keep my hand on the 'geeta' and say that there never existed a mixture of fun, emotions, laughter, melodrama, confusion and cheapness(lol)...delete the last part! He was there when I wanted someone to just hear me out and not blame me, he was there when everone else was busy, he was there to make me laugh in tears and he has been there since then! Thankyou Manan for everything. Though you dont CARE!lol....AND I promise you'll get JUST the right person when the right time comes because believe it or not untill the right time nither I nor you can do anything about it!(hope u got what m talking about).

OH NO - NOT AGAIN!!

AGAIN

that's a word which has

become the most prominent 'feature'

of my life, lately.

AGAIN

everything seems to be

related to THE past

I

most unwillingly wish

would never had been

THE past!

As this very past has made

THE present 'm living today.

And

probably will be living in

THE future!

What the **** did

I

do to get THIS?!!

SO now

every corner, every road

every place scares me.

Making me run

to somewhere where there is

NOwhere!

Everything that reminds me

of all that, though

I turn my back

It's impossible to

DO so!

I always wish,

that

I had the courage

I boast of.

Oh I feel so guilty

of everything, that

logically i should be

DOING.

I'm guilty, I feel

ashamed of everything,

of which

I should'nt be!

ALL this ends with only one word:

CONFUSED!

Do Dreams Come true?

I was just sitting and wondering can fantasies come true, as in, in real?Actually if we look carefully we realise that fantasy has its origin in reality. So is it wrong to make a fantasy world of ones own and live a part of your life in it?I mean every girl has a dreamland of her own! So the question is : is it wrong to have a fantasy? Well i cannot answer that question so if any of the people reading it has an answer may please do me a huge favour and leave it for me!

The thing is sometimes I cannot believe the things that happen around me....actually I dont understand half the things and m still in the process of trying to come to terms with these silly facts of this world. Facts refering as emotions, career, and the question of why the hell are we on this earth? There must be some reason behind it, is'nt it?? Look at the famous saying "every person on this earth comes with a purpose", but I m not able to find mine! People say m ambitious.....if you ask me I tell you I have not the slightest idea of what am I gonna do even tomorrow!How can I tell what I wanna do in my life! But then I know there IS something for me to do which m not aware of. OH MAN!!!this is SO confusing!

I hope everyone else knows what they are gonna do! As in, in life. And are not clueless about it. OOPS...sorry for wasting you time and thankyou for reading me out!

**I believe in angelz**

Sometimes I question myself>>>>am I so lucky?And sometimes m forced to think>>>>what the hell such a shitty luck I have!

Sorry for using *abusive* lingo!But its MY age, I am supposed to use it!

So the luckiest thing is that I have so many people whom I can say "they" really lurv me despite of everything.

The very first photo is Apurva n' me...I'v told abt her earlier; so no more discriptions!She is a ''all time available'' backup for me! She is always there to help me out even if she does'nt want to! LOL

The second photo is of Sanjukta and me!

One thing that i did not tell about her was that this girl has tolerated me for almost 7 years now! That's the longest period after my parents and my sister!Though we are absolutly OPPOSITE...and till this date after ALMOST 7 years I can't say that I really know her. It's like ,though I know everything (almost) about her still I cannot tell what exactly she thinks. All in all we differ in any and every way!! But still i love her and i guess THAT is what matters and ofcourse the chocolate cake! Correct me if m wrong **wink wink**!

SO, is'nt she pretty?? That's my chubby wobby sister! If I'd say I love her it would be a HUGE insult to her because love seems to be such a tiny-mini word to express the love-hate relationship she and I share. Though she is such a idiot and eww kinda gurl but she is so goddamn USEful..hahaha...what did u expect??hahaha...ohk ahem ahem on the SERIOUS note: she is like the goddess of my live. People cannot se god, I can ! She has made some of the most impossible things possible for me. She is like this shining star in the bright 'moony' night, in which there is happiness and I cannot see it but SHE makes me see it! She can be a dictator though and a big time bitch if in one of her moods! She has these huge mood swings, they are worse than my mood swings (just imagin!).Thank you Sachi di(A.K.A. *PuRpLe PrInCeSs*) for being there ,otherwise it was almost impossible to bring her back to ab-normal after those mood swings!(LOL) But we share a bond in which even if i say 'I hate u' that is b'coz I love her and same the other way round!!

NOW the person who'll be reading this will be thinking if this gurl (my sister A.K.A. Ankur..haha) is SO important in my life why is she AT the end...well this so b'coz it's hard talking about her ,the complexcity of our relationship is so HUGE that words are not enough to talk about her. So to end it I'll say :YOU ROCK ^GrEeN QuEeN^!!

Apart from her and my parents the new member of our family is the someone who brings a smile on my father's face as well (one of the most NOT-possible things) when he is really angry! And that someone is Chilli THE BILLI!!! Our kitten! Her Photo'll tell you how cute she IS!! Chilli has become the life of our whole family in only one month!!

I think that's enough about such a prominent personality!!**wink wink**

Thinking! (for a change)

It's been long since the last blog.Well m sure no one has been "desperatly" waiting for it though!

Today m going to tell a story----I wont be able to tell you the exact story though the reasons being a bit personal. So here it goes :

Just been out of the house for 5 minutes and her cell is already ringing and people no need to guess because its her mum. "yeah mum?" she said as she picked up, "Get me 2 liters of full cream milk,see the date and then buy it. And see if there is some freash full bread."said her mother."Ohk, anything else?"

"naah nothing,get it and come fast!"replied the mother.

This is a regular routin after coming back from college. Naaz,that's her name, meaning pride, though she does'nt feel any such thing any more! Hurt,deeply hurt! Fallen, from a great height! Always been the apple of her father's eye, been many people's fav., "been" always proud of everything that she ever had! But today and for the past 3 months the pride has been shatered, she feels so low, so isolated, as if its worthless being what she is and why the hell was she sent to this "super sentimental" world! Purposelessly?

Dont get confused its just me! The super DEVIL a.k.a. NAAZ!

Today, I have been forced to think weather it is right to lower oneself this much just because 'this one' was left by the 'other one' for a reason that has not yet been found! Ohk I know its a bit confusing so i'll start with TODAY-----

I was sitting in the metro and a couple came to my side and again i was wondering why the bloody hell does god have to send all the boyfriends and girlfriends around ME!???So this one is sayin---

'Yeah u are right Karan, its always been my fault so why are u wanting to meet me? I did not ask you this time! I begged YOU to come back for 2 months but you never listened.'said the girl

'I know i'v been a jerk,but try and understand yaar you know m a bit slow at mind.'said the boy

'Its not a time to joke alright, come straight now. Why did u want to meet me?YOU want all the presents back that you gave me?Then forget it,because I wont!They the only things that are left of you with me and......the memories.'-girl

'What if I say I got a teddy for you today?'-boy

'What the fuck?'-girl

He gives the teddy to her!

'What if I say I got a hide n' seek for you?'-boy

The girl stairs at him.

'What if I say that when i went to the flower shop this morning, and the flowerist said the sunflowers hav'nt arrived yet.'-boy

Tiers start falling from the girls eyes.

'What is I say from the past 2 months the first and last thing that i thought was of you?'-boy

'I dont get it.'-girl turning away.

The boy takes back the teddy and holds it in front of him and says...dear teddy, please tell this idiot that I love her,I loved her and will always do so!

The girl just cant stop crying and I realise i just missed my station.I get off at the next and catch the reverse............

Now how does it relate to ME! I had a break up 3 months back and i never got a reason for it!I tried hard to forget all of it but today I realised that its useless running away! The truth will come to you, YOU need not find it!I can keep loving him even if he does'nt loves me! And if god has some mercy on me I'll get WHAT 'I' deserve!

The boy and the girl deserved each other!

The pride is not hurt! I'm still my father's apple rather mango!

Life is'nt finished, there is a purpose with which a person comes to this earth...it can be bad as well as good! I am in no authority to hurt people just because I was hurt once.

She has reached the shop and calls back her mother as she has forgotten how much milk she was supposed to buy...

'How much milk ma?'

'Bola toh tha,2 liter.'

'Yeah. And ma....I love you!'

Loves in the air ALL the time!

[P.S.: I LOVE YOU]

The darker side of me!

DISCLAIMER: To whom so ever it may concern. It is nat a private me. This "darker" side of me is what I am famous for!

You must be wondering why such a heading! It should have been the 'dark' side of me,but as it concerns ME it has to be the 'darker' side of me as funnily all my sides are dark- literary or psychologically! Ohk people its not a matter to laugh on so coming down to the TOPIC! The darker side of me would be the thing that a person realises instantly when he or she meets me for the first 'few' times,as one cannot know someone in the very first meeting! So the very first thing evrybody tells me about me is my supposed ability to loose temper really fast! I known this fact for the past ,as far as i can remember, 10 years! And the worse part rather the 'darker' part is that I hav'nt been able to control or make 'amends' for it.

But being Highly egoistical i can justify it...though not completely but to SOME extent. But as I write this passage I realise that its not about ego, because I myself want to get rid of this ''darker ME'' and also the fact the this anger has become an inevitable part of my life and 'm not able to get rid of it!

Now try this------it might help you understand what am I really trying to say!

I hate it

but

it adds to my ATTITUDE

so

thats ME! The ego in me...

The anger in ME!

I love it

but

it is a black spot on my personality

so

thats ME! The spin in me

The anger in ME!

This part

the anger in ME!

...is a part of me

that can not be riped

and

thrown away!

It has stuck for so long

unabling me to 'change' it!

this anger in ME!

Ummm..so by now i hope you'v got an IDEA how difficult it is for me to leave ''the anger in me''...so the conclusion is- all you people better start dealing with it and make sure that YOU do'nt do any such thing that would FORCE me to bring out the ''darker'' side of me!;)

Be happy

and let others be happy

AS WELL!

[P.S.:-all the above discription of me is absolutly true please do not consider it as a joke. But I can assure each and everyone that 'm not ALL that bad......I can be if not good but atleast nice at times.]